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Legally it is NOT adultery and not grounds for divorce in my state. I checked. Any man married over 20 years knows this is an easy answer.

yes I think it isw cheating, but as long as I don't get caught by my wife, I'm ok with it and I don't feel guilty. I been married to the same woman 30 years and it doesnt hurt to play on the side. Now if I only been marry for a few years like 5 or less years. i wouldn't be here. I still be spending a lot of time with my wife.

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I am a host and I don't really care if members are married or not. But I certainly feel sorry for their wives!
I don't mind my husband watching porn and masturbating with or without me, but I make sure his wage comes into our bank account and is spent wisely.

I'd be interested to hear what the hosts think from a woman's point of view. But speaking as a guy, I don't mind that married men come online to play...up to a point. For example, I could argue that since this is all takes place online where there's no contact or touching, its no different than being a married man and going to a friend's bachelor party and having some fun. So a part of me can think of it that way and just see this as innocent fun. On the other hand, I have to admit it pisses me when a married guy will push hard to meet a host, because they're looking for a real hook-up or some kind of romance on the side. Which means they are looking to cross the line and cheat on their wife. I also don't think it's right when a host leads a guy on and breaks his heart. So fair is fair -- I likewise don't think its right for a married guy to come here and pretend to be single...to lead a host on and get her romantic hopes up...just so he can get his sick kicks by breaking her heart in the end.

I said this in an earlier post -- I'm a single guy, which means I can be here and play freely, 100% guilt free. But the irony is I'd love to be married and spend my time focused on one woman and partner in life. So maybe this is just one of those "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence" sort of things. Because if I was married, I sure as hell wouldn't be here. I'd be finding all-new ways to romance my wife and keep a smile on her face. But I guess I'm pretty old fashioned that way.

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I don't mind married men. Meaning that it is interesting to chat to them and they are mostly somehow more relaxed, understanding and know what they want. They have life experience and are ready to share it- I respect it when they honestly say they are married. I mean it is fun to chat with them about life and have a nice sexy show, if they have healthy attitude- if I can understand what brought them here.
But if it goes into the direction of meeting and romance- it is somehow pervert in my view. Also if they want unrealistically pervert things...disgusting! Then I have to think of a man with trembling hands, looking around and hidding somewhere in the basement to have video :)) creepy

try to think is your husband doing that :)))

I actually deeply love my bf. So tell me he does that- that will be very helpful.

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Oh then we could come together online and gain new experience.
As you may imagine I know about many male fantasies and I am extremely loyal to them:P
Honesty and trust is decisive in a relationship.

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Yes you are right :(( I would not agree on him visiting another girls if we were married.
Maybe I am bad and possessive but I have extensive chathost experience, I am attractive and smart...why would he want to visit other chathosts? I would also probably seek divorce then... Just cannot imagine my husband as a pleasure addict.

I think for men it's the same as stroking his cock watching a porn movie with your own plot...so no serious crime... but I don't want my husband to do that :)

I agree with Big Dumb Ape and Just a host. They split it the right way. If a married man is only here for fun that is acceptable. But if a married man is looking to arrange a real meeting he is a pervert. If he is only here to fantasy chat that is acceptable. But if he is trying to chat up a host and romance her that is sick too. I think cheaters deserve to get caught by their wives and pay a price for cheating.

I actually think I'd rather see a married man here and playing out his fantasies than having an affair. When it bothers me is when we talk about his marriage and I see him online nightly while his wife is in bed and he is there playing with me. Then when he tells me the problems with the marriage and finances is one of their stresses. It tells me that he is escaping the problems in his marriage and making the problems worse and I now have increased his problems. That breaks my heart and I feel bad then. Other than that I feel it is a healthy way for a man to explore his fantasies that his wife chooses not to be part of or can't. Obviously his marriage is still important for the right reasons but he is staying content too. I actually respect married men for that and personally if I was the spouse I would see it that way unless I wanted to fulfill his desires. Unfortunately I think most women would take it personally that she was inadequate and not really understanding how sexual men really are. I think men regardless of age have very strong sexual desires that women can't always keep up with and just don't understand the importance. I think that this can be a healthy addition to a happy marriage....but like all things when it's kept in moderation :)

I feel bad for the wife too. I think that is the general conclusion that "Sorting Things Out" was pushing people towards when he posed his question. Married men will justify visiting a cam site and playing with a sexy host because no real contact is involved. But as others have noted, including yourself, when that same married man keeps returning day after day, it sends a strong signal that something is wrong in his home life. When a married man starts to tell a host how much he's fallen for her or wants to have an online romance with her that is when it becomes creepy. That is when you can tell he's hoping to turn an online fantasy into reality. It also means he's willing to cross the line and have a real affair or he's thinking about actually leaving his wife because he's hoping to become romantically involved with the host. Married men who carry on like this are distasteful to me and I do feel bad for the wife at home.

I wonder whether there can be a kind of friendship between a host and a married man who is in a troubled marriage...
Can hosts really somehow help him to sort things out in his head listening to him and maybe voicing their opinions based on their (perhaps extensive) experince with men? With a host on the internet you can speak more freely about such thing sand maybe live out a couple of fantasies you always dreamed of. Would that help him to make the right decision about his life?
Or will it always be destructive since hosts are attractive women and not psychologists...

have no problem with a married guy becoming friends with other women the same way I have no problem with a married woman having a few male friends. Everyone has friends in life that are of the opposite sex. I don't think people need to be locked away in a box or anything like that. We're human beings and social interaction is a healthy thing.

BUT -- there's always a but! -- problems start when a married guy starts doing things TOO much. Someone else said it best. A married guy chatting with a host is okay...so long as its done in moderation and any real feelings are kept in check. If he's coming online and chatting with a host to talk things out -- to sort of work through his emotional problems -- that's okay. If that were the case, I could argue that the host is actually helping him a bit. But if he's constantly coming online and taking a host private because he's gotten hooked on the sex play and now he's become romantically interested -- which means he's now neglecting his wife because he's become TOO infatuated with a host -- that's NOT okay. Then again, I keep saying this. I don't understand why married guys act this way. If I was lucky enough to be married, I'd be doing everything I could to make my wife smile and have a happy home. Isn't that why you got married in the first place???

Talk to me after you've been married a few years, had kids & cleaned up their v*mit and sh*t; struggled with boredom, depression, stress at work; lived with your spouse's personal quirks that you might think are cute now but just wait a few years, when they drive you up the wall. Marriage ain't so easy, for either party. What's easy is to criticize (and that can be part of the problem, believe me).

"are distasteful to me". All lawyers and especially those on Wall Street are distasteful to me and most other working folks.

A wise person once said, "If you think it is sin, then it is sin for you." (Saint Paul).

I'm sure there are good arguments on both sides of this issue, making it a gray area for everyone except those who have strong feelings about one way or the other, who see it as black and white. Which is to say, I have no idea what I'm talking about! LOL

Personally, I feel guitly. In my mind, it is cheating. And I know for certain that if my wife knew about "my little secret", she too would feel I am cheating, and be very disappointed, hurt, angry, and maybe ready to have done with me.

Now the rationalization. My wife and I do not have a good relationship, no intimacy, no closeness, no sex, no deep, personal communication, no affection. I've "crossed the line" where I am sure the old relationship cannot be recaptured. It's gone. Why not divorce? Multiple reasons, which I care not to go into here, but good reasons, so we stay in an unhappy relationship. And also, multiple reasons why I do not feel at liberty to pursue another real-life relationship, and have my needs met in a real physical one-on-one relationship.

Some may call me sleaze, others a fool, some will look down their nose in disgust -- while others may say I'm doing the right thing using this place to satisfy feelings and needs that aren't being met elsewhere, I'm not hurting anyone, and since no physical sex it's just fantasy.

Probably neither argument will change my being here. And I will still feel guilt, and I will still come here to have some needs met. And things will continue as they are at home. And maybe eventually, I will feel the freedom to get out of an unhealthy, unfulfilling relationship, and discover one that is real, healthy and fulfills me.

Thumbs up for your honesty! I think it is much harder on men than it is women to not have sex in their lives. It is also hard to understand what creates that wall between two people that were very happy and in love at some point. When a woman shuts down sexually it is usually because emotionally her needs aren't met. Women need the intimacy outside of the bedroom to stay active in the bed. My opinion :)
I think what you are doing is healthy at this point. Many guys come here when they are in very happy relationships too and even newly weds!! If it is coming here that they quit appreciating the woman that they are with then I think it becomes a problem. A lot of times I think it is a solution to mens infidelity. It keeps them from having affairs.
Good luck to you....I'd rather be alone any day than be in a miserable relationship and if this gives you relief from that....it is a good thing.

I think it is right not to say to your wife about that.

And I hope you will see an opening one day to resolve it all to the satisfaction of all parties involved.
I know it is very HARD. hihi

hm why don't you find a lover?
Are your moral standards high or is there no opportunity to find such?
You seem to be under considerable pressure.

I respect your strength.

How you spend your time and money is your business. How you conduct your life is your business. Judgmental people are hypocrits and losers. Do what you think is best for you and your family.

Definitely children and money are the reason. Maybe also the social status and someone's sickness. Sounds sad.
But if you realise what your situation is- you can change it.
Another wise guy said something like "This is given to you because you have the strength to deal with it". Or someone has to kick you out of that circle.

Thank you for your post.
I hope you won't become a romantic womanizer.

love

Most wives would be hurt and disappointed to discover their huband frequented this site. They would at first blame themselves. They would think..I am not attractive enough or sexy enough. However, in ttime they would turn on you. The fact that this site is all about real, live interpersonal contact is a tough one. If it was a porn site with pics and movies...that's one thing but a site where you develop "relationships" and chat etc. That would be a blow to any woman. Plus the money aspect. Unless you have money coming out your butt the wife would say...you could have spent that money on me, the kids, a vacation...etc. So...it is best you be careful to keep it secret and while it is not legally cheating it is emotionally to the woman...and could lead to marital problems.

Money coming out of my butt? Dangit! That's the ONE place I haven't looked for it!

I think many times too that with the stresses of being a woman and working and caring for the kids, etc. that it might be a solution because she is so damn tired that if you can get relief and she can get her sleep then it's a win win....lol.

That's something I've always wondered about. Married guys will spend money on a host which is good for her. But why aren't they saving that money and spending on their wives or kids to make them happier? I wonder how many married guys screwed around online and then buy their wives flowers out of guilt.

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Its already happening ....

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That's right, give us more details please. What was the lesson?

Let that be the lesson Alice Dont Take Tablets and Drink

What did he do that made him not deserve you? By your choice of song sounds like you are saying you are still available which is contradictory to your post. Don't keep us in suspense in a public forum.....give us the details so that we can be supportive :)

Supportive or Gossiper?

To throw out random words to a group makes no sense. What is the purpose? If you post here there is some need for feedback and how can anyone give you that? If it is a message to a specific person then present it to them. If for the sake of someone just feeling bad for themselves then give information. It is just that simple....

who are you talking to?

I was supporting the comments made by Why to the original poster and commenting back to the ignorant comments made by VM. Why do you care??
The original post was random.

why? ". . . Don't keep us in suspense in a public forum.....give us the details so that we can be supportive :) . . ."

So poster "Why": you wanna be Supportive or your just wanna be nosey GOSSPER?

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Is that "welcome" as you are willing to do them?

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Thats cool and who would you be so i can check you out?

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Worried about?

How about bath videos? or you only want a shower?

Bath video would be ok but would rather shower

To my mind, the best shower photographs on the site are those of HOTWISHES from 30 March 2010. One of the most beautiful, fun hosts here; never mentioned in the forums but a real gem. Don't know if she gives a live shower performance, but you can always ask.

Thanks for the info i will ask her

yes, i agree that time is the most valuable thing a person has. but maybe you would do well to remember that each and every second that you are 'giving' of your time to a member here, they are also 'giving' of their time to you.

to think that you are so above everybody that your time is more precious to give than theirs is simply arrogance.

i hope i have misunderstood your post, otherwise you are very rude to tell us all that your time is more important than ours.

We give u our time....BUT U COME HERE TO HAVE FUN SO WE GIVE U OUR TIME SO U CAN FEEL GOOD NOT VICEVERSA. Yeah realist.....u pay for our time.....thats why i write in the post that i would like ....when we get older we could buy back our time.....you very shallow, i wish that u have all the money in the world .....but also i wish u never to be happy, be loved by anyone ,but im not worryed cuz u have money....u can buy SO MANY THINGS...even fake love 4a short while from a escort....so u gona be ok ...LOL

I don't understand your comment either.....people spend time at their work everyday and they lose time that they could be doing something that they might enjoy better. This is a job that you chose....no one is forcing you to spend your time here. You are making money for your time...it is a job. No one can get the time back that they gave to make money. It is an exchange so that you can live and pay bills. If you are dreaming that some man will find you and take care of you so that you can have your dream.....then I think you should change your dream to more realistic. Find a job where you are working with the public if you think that this job is too lonely for you and it is not exposing you to the man of your dreams. Your life is your choice to make it whatever you want to. No one is stealing your time.
It sounds like you don't like working here or your life and so you should consider doing something different....that is always your choice. Happiness comes from within or else when someone comes into your life you have nothing to give them. Change your life and start being grateful for what you do have and you will get different results. Good Luck!
I think it is totally inappropriate to attack members here for your un happiness.

from your grammar and english usage, I would say you are UK, Canadian, or USA host. And for someone here in these countries, I would say you are right on, about "choice". But not every host here shares your sense of freedom. The economic situations in some countries, or a person's personal situation, and this may seem like the only alternative. They would like to do something else, but feel limited, no other opportunities. Romania, the average income in "regular" work, I heard a while back was something like "$100/month" . In Philippines too, I imagine for some this may seem like the only thing they can do. Not every country has the opportunities, the economy, that we here in the West have. Thank God I live here, and I do have a choice. But I would not presume to think that others in the world have as quality of choices as I have. But even I, because of circumstances, am not able to take hold of the choices that I have available. There's a thing called reality. Mouths to feed, children to clothe, a job market that absolutely sucks, and especially for one my age, almost an impossibility to change to anything even close to the same level I am at (unless I want to work at MacDonalds flipping hamburgers or something, and don't care that I am heading to the poorhouse!)

Yes, "lonely girl" has a choice, but are her alternatives any better, or are they worse, than what she has here at CC?

I think that if she has a computer to type this message on that it is not that bad. If she only makes $50 a day here she is way ahead of the $100 per month which should give her many choices. Money isn't the issue it is about being unhappy and lonely and that everyone has the choice. If you change your state of mind by being appreciative of what you do have and make a plan to improve what you don't like....that is the first step. She is lonely, unhappy and resenting men here....that is her choice unless she changes her way of thinking. To lash out with the blame that the members are stealing her time.....instead of this is a job is pretty irrational.

where did you get that she is resenting folks here? I heard nothing of that. Except perhaps in her snap remark back to "and of our time?" who launched a tirade against her. $50 /day? So what choices does she have other than to continue here? And for some hosts, I'm sure $50/day is a dream, not reality.

Anyway, i think you have misunderstood what she wrote and her intention in writing it.

Please don't think that all members here are so shallow. Some are just like you which is why they come here, to search for companionship they can't find in real life. Believe it or not there are members who are very appreciative (not for the services) but for the company that hosts provide. Don't be so down on yourself. Have fun! Love is out there and it will find you. (just dont look for it here :P)

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lol you are funny .......JUST A GUY HAS PERFECT RIGHT

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Very strange comment! If you are communicating together...why here and anonymous...strange.

I don't know why it's taken "he" 10 years. I found the perfect girl here and knew it the second I laid eyes on her. And the first time I heard her voice, I knew she'd hold my heart forever. As for the things Lonely Girl said about time and appreciating things, I do. A few years back a car ran a red light doing 100 and tore my car to shred and even bounced it off a tree. I woke up in an emergency room with doctors all over me and spent the better part of a year in physical therapy trying to regain the use of my back and the entire left side of my body. I'm fine now, but not a day goes by that I don't realize how special our time is here on Earth and how suddenly it can all be taken away. So I think it's good to be a dreamer. Because when you really think about it, you have nothing to lose by dreaming big and hoping for the best. And yes, it's good to dream and believe in love because if there's one truly great thing about being a human being, it's our ability to love so much and so unconditionally, if we simply open our hearts and choose to do so.

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Very strange comment

You don't give us your time, we pay for it

And all the "in between" times, when there is no viewer in the room? Are you paying for that time as well, when she must be here? What of all those days, when almost no one comes in video, and she must sit hour to hour never leaving the house, never far from the computer, waiting for someone to come in, because this is her work and she is supporting herself? Where are you then? You pay only for a few moments of her time. And maybe she has many viewers. But still to do well here, requires long hours of commitment. Maybe you pay $1 per minute. After CC's cut what is that which is left? And if she works in a studio? maybe she makes $0.17 to $0.33 per minute. I see some hosts online here 12 to 16 hours a day or more (at least they are logged in and online). Maybe they are sleeping at times, or maybe doing household things, but they aren't far from the PC. How can they have a "life" when that is their existence?

I for one am offended by your reply, and the replies of several others. I am touched by what she said, and feel sorry for her. I could not do what she does. I could not spend the time here that many of the hosts must spend. And whoever she is, I wish her the best.

how can you say you are 'giving' of your time?

let's say for instance that i come home from the hospital and i have to spend a week in bed. you come to my home each day to read me poetry and talk to me to cheer me up. you DO NOT ask for or expect any money. this is giving of your time, and yes i would appreciate if anybody did something like this for me.

but on here, cc, you are getting paid by the minute to spend time with me. chatting, doing a strip, or whatever category you are in. but you ARE GETTING PAID. get this through your rude little head. this is NOT giving. you should apologize to everybody here for being so rude as to say that we are fortunate enough to be able to pay you to spend time with us. get over yourself.

after reading the responses to your post, i imagine you are sorry you posted it. I thought your words made great sense. I thought they were full of sincerity, expressing your feelings. I'm sorry no one else seemed to be able to comprehend what you wrote. I get the sense that some people are so defensive they take things the wrong way, assume something is bad when it isn't.

I hope you will find that special someone to take away your loneliness. And I hope that you will find the time you need beyond this place for that special relationship to be found, and that the time you spend here will not feel like a burden that dominates your life.

i see all these posts here saying why dont you feel sorry for her she is giving of her time. but as one host and several members pointed out, there is one small detail. she is getting paid to work here, like anybody gets paid to be at their job and also loses their time. she is NOT giving her time for free. she is getting PAID. why does this escape so many of you who have posted?

as far as the original poster being lonely or anything, yes i hope she finds happiness.

but stop with the nonsense about her giving her time. if she is giving of her time then everybody who works and gets paid at their job is also giving of their time, and we should just feel sorry for everybody.

I get paid a salary... a set amount for the entire year, broken down into weekly installments. Other people get paid by the hour, 40 hours' work/ 40hours worth of pay/ 52 weeks per year. Most hosts, as I understand it, get paid by the minute -- the minute that a member is in video. If she has members in videochat for 8 hours each day, she gets paid for 8 hours work minus CC's take, minus her studio boss's take (if she is not independent). If she has memers in videochat for only 1 minute out of those 8 hours, she gets 1 minute's pay minus CC minus Studio, yet she has worked 8 hours, just not in videochat session.

So tell me again, what was it you were saying about one small point and not giving of her time?

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I've read her comments several times now. I see no dissatisfaction about members in her comment, only dissatisfaction that her life is not what she wants it to be, and hoping members can understand. I saw no criticisms of members. Only a host venting her loneliness and hoping someone would understand that she is also a person with needs. I see a plea for understanding, not a cry of criticism or a desire for judgment.

Why can't we just express our support without being critical of words spoken from her heart? Or is this place too calloused and impersonal?

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I can see that her statement there could be taken in that way. However, English does not seem to be her native language, and I think that what may sound to some as her attacking members is only her inability to express her feelings in a way that says what she is intending. I understood her statement in a very different light.

The problem phrase, I think is "Pay you back". It is an English idiom often meaning, "to get revenge" or "to give someone the punishment they deserve" . But idioms do not translate well, and are among the hardest of things to understand for a person of another language. The literal meaning of the words is often quite different from its idiomatic meaning. Literally, "pay you back" simply means to return in kind, e.g., if someone does something nice for me, I may "pay them back" by doing something nice for them.

I don't know, maybe I am just an eternal optimist, but that is what I think she was intending to say, and is how I interpreted that statement: that someday they can have an opportunity to return the favor of her investment of time (i.e., her life) for them in this job.

Okay, I just re-read her second post, and I understand her words differently now, but still not as attacking or shallow

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Possibly something to do with the shear number of beggars...
Along with people making demands and telling host what They think she should be doing according to her category! lol

Proof, the hosts fight back :D

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Do you invest a little time with the girls, chatting them up, flirting and generally getting to know them and letting them get comfortable with you before you move to greater intimacy? I suggest if you take ths approach, you'll get your nudity in both little shy and not so shy. Over time, as you develop a rapport with your favourites, you'll become one of their favourites too and the nudity will be as close to instant as you want. Just saying what works for me.

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Just about the most sensible posting I have read in these forums. Spot on.

How soon after you enter video are you asking for a show. Sounds like they all think you are requesting it too soon.

The circumstances have varied with each host. Sometimes it was in free chat just asking about what to expect in pvt as cc advises all viewers to do and other times it was in open video. It does not happen all the time or even most of the time, but for it to happen at all is strange to me. It almost seems to me like at least some of the girls in not shy are starting to think and act like hosts in Glamour/shy. And for many years that was never the case.

i've had it happen, even with hosts i've seen before with other id's that have stripped right away when I saw them in the past. It all depends on the host and her mood. Just look at as a sign to move on. But if it happens in not so shy and she won't strip a few minutes after u asked, even in open, write to CC.

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wrinkle prevention cream or face cream ;p

"your just reward"

'round these parts it is called Obamas Revenge

twice daily protein drink

lol, is not

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Only twice daily???
Just thinking about my favorite host has me spraying more often than that :))

Man chowder....

jizm

Creme de la creme

disgusting spunk

video chat terminator

Nice one :)

:))) u have nothing to do seems ;)

Spooge

Love stain :D

Liquid Love.

now i know what do people do here when they are not in the session :)
it was interesting to read anyway

"Our eyes are always the same size from birth but our nose and ears never stop growing."

thats so funny.. that means we ll all be some pinocchio s when we ll be old.. lol

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goldfish actually have a longer memory span. saw it on discovery channel's Mythbusters.

Cool....we should do this more often :) Also did u know:......during war the troops returning from war will indidare 0 (zero) killed ... which eventually became overused OK to indicate all is alright ...a woman told me that a few days ago when i was waiting in a line to buy something....:) i will always remember that woman when i say the O.K :) see how much impact a person can have when doing a nice thing without asking 4 something in return? :)

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I believe the woman was wrong. That "explanation" comes from the American Civil War in which the Number of Persons Killed was often posted on a public announcement board, 0K meaning Zero Killed. However the term OK predates the Civil War by at least 20 some years, it's first recorded usage being in 1839., and was an abbreviation for a slang phrase "oll korrect" meaning "all correct". (Civil war was 186

oops, hit the "post" button by mistake. Civil War was 1861.

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An equally credible derivation is that it comes from a political society called Democratic OK, the 'OK' signifying Old Kinderhook, a nickname of the Democratic leader Martin Van Buren after his birthplace, and used as an election slogan.

You can't get this stuff on the Discovery Channel :-)

Yes, i did see that. Possible

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why do they have to be mutually exclusive :--)

Roses are Red
Violets are Purple
Sugar is sweet
And so is maple syruple
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in the wedding singer the fiance is a cheating womanizer, so yeah we're rooting for sandler

IF they both knew they were in love, that'd be different. But she doesn't want to meet because she doesn't want to risk cheating. Seems she has already chosen who she wants to be with, and doesn't want to put herself in a situation where she might be tempted to cheat. That's admirable. Cheating is never ok. And what happens here is cheating, in my view. I would never come here if I was in a relationship (thankfully i'm rarely in a relationship... sad face :( ) You hosts, i understand if you have bf's, this is a job, but for members, its cheating, for the most part.

It's not admirable. It's a cop-out. What you're saying is this. IF she met the member, she'd have an affair. Seems to me that her relationship with her BF isn't secure if the only thing holding her back is staying at home and locking herself away. Otherwise temptation would easily win. Sounds like she's staying with her BF out of convenience more than anything. If simply meeting the member in a public place is too much temptation for her to handle, she should rethink her relationship cause it sounds pretty weak to me.

Please, stop analysing me and my relationships, you are really bad at it.

If i respect my bf enough not to meet guys from here, especially if i have some feelings for one-makes my realtionships "weak" - if u say so.

And its only in the perfect world -we fall in love and stop noticing all people around,especially after some years with the same person. Temptations still exist, they come and go, the thing is we have to resist, if we respect and appreciate our current half. We have to understand and firnd out what is better for us-affairs and sparkles, or the stalbe partner who truly cares, and who we have been through a lot with and who we feel deep love for.

There is a huge difference between my situation and Drew;s situation. My bf is a great man, treats me like a princess and that fiance in the movie was an ass*ole. So. Please dont compare. I already regret i posted that. People missunderstood. I will not leave my stable, loving and caring bf for an online fantasy. Crush comes and goes.

Oh! I had to read it like 3 times to comprehend:)
You just represent the member in a much more favourable light so it is hard to like the BF.
He is letting his GF work here/ is not strong enough to make her quit- is afraid to lose her when being possessive.
Yeah- all depends on the girl's attitude. Speaking from my personal experience, I have not always been in relationships that are called "healthy"... for various reasons. Sometimes just for fun...unhealthy relationships may be pretty exciting and fun *blush*. This member in question is winning her so nicely that I ask myself whether he is really such a strong person to keep things right or is there some cheating behind...
In films it can end nicely...and in real life?

but when is issues with money dosen't metter if you work here...in life you must fight and have patience and everything will be good. and this is a videochat.

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understand you perfectly, hosty. For me money has always been the reason N1 of being here.

I think a better example is "Wedding Crashers". It begins with Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson crashing weddings to have sex with hot women. But it all changes when Wilson falls for the Senator's daughter who is about to get married. Wilson then tries his best to steal the girl, and is finally forced to crash her wedding to win her (which he does). I think its a better example because the boyfriend wasn't a cheater like the boyfriend in "Wedding Singer." So there was no reason to root against him. In "Crashers" the boyfriend was simply an ok guy who just wanted to marry his girlfriend.

It's interesting that when we watch a romantic movie, we don't feel any guilt about the hero busting up a relationship because we want him to win. That's because in our minds we all want to be the guy who gets the girl and has a happy ending. Or be the girl who ends up with the right guy, who was the most romantic and proved he was the best choice. I think we always prefer to be with someone who will show they're willing to put up a fight for us.

Did you not watch the movie? In wedding crashers the bf is controlling and cheats around with waitresses and such. We hear about this while he's talking with his friends at his engagement party or night before the wedding party or something, and when he's talking on the phone toward the beginning with his friend.
The host in question, has obviously chosen staying with her bf over meeting and being with the member, good for her, loyalty is hard to find. Not saying that should be the case if he's a bad boyfriend, but if he's not, good for her for not playing with the thought of cheating by meeting, because why meet if thats not where its going? It's obvious thats what the member wants. And it doesn't say something about their relationship that she would be tempted, in almost all relationships there will be times where you're tempted. If there are any romantic thoughts or feelings, thats something that needs to be dealt with.

The host changed her tune. Her first post said "Right now im having a crush and im so confused...i have a boyfriend and i love him and would never cheat, but this one is so tempting...Im lost and really dont know how to handle it :( " That sure sounds like someone confused about their feelings. But ever since she posted that she's only put up posts saying how much she loves her bf. So she's either confused or feels guilty for admitting she felt tempted.

It is not fighting for something if you never had it. There could be a hint of chemistry between the member and the host but if she has found her love and is content with that then she is not available. For her to meet the member is cheating in her mind on her bf that she is happy with by even considering another man. If he sparked her interest further then it could change her feelings towards her bf and yet she was happy and content before that. My opinion.... Now if you were talking Six Days Seven Nights with Harrison Ford then that was a whole different story and it just happened......when they started out Anne Heche hated him.....:)

And what considerations are valid if one or two parties happen to be unhappily married (no children or mortgages involved)? Should they leave any gleam of hope at finding love?
Just curious because many men visiting this site are definitely married ...or girls. Does the previously mentioned ring on the finger change everything?

That seems to be another question that everyone dances around at a place like this -- how much does a wedding ring matter? If you're unhappily married and want to move on, to find a better love, is it cheating if you start looking around or playing BEFORE you're officially divorced? Or if you ARE married and pretty much resigned to your fate -- I mean, if you're never going to leave your spouse (for one reason or another) -- is it cheating if you come to a place like this and play around behind their back?

I'm a single guy so I can play freely. I'm also one of those dummies who has fallen hard for a host and I'd marry her in a second. Personally, I'd love to be married because I think sharing and building a life with that one special person IS the most rewarding thing that you can do in life (yes, I know that sounds really old fashioned, but its what I believe). So I have to say that IF I was married, I'd never visit a cam site again because I would consider it cheating on my wife, even if playing here is only an online "no touch" fantasy thing.

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That's a sweet thing to say, host. I hope you are happy in life and in all that you do. Best wishes to you. As for us "nice guys" waiting in line, I've been waiting quite a while now, but I refuse to give up because I'm still hoping for a happy ending. Now if only my favorite host here would get off her cute bubble butt and realize she's meant to be with me, I could be a VERY happy man!

and the bf or husband , same have the line of womans :))

Hardly a comparison to how hosts are wanted here! Most are beautiful girls, sexy with great bodies....

Thank you your expressing your male point of view. It is being appreciated.:)

Good one:))

Actually it is usually the worst which are irritatingly persistent and that you can't get out of your head. For instance I only have to write "Agadoo-doo-doo push pineapple, shake the tree" and anybody who knows the song will be cursing for the rest of the day!

B@st@rd!! :-P

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nice one!!!!
wait a second! i'm still available. that means......dammit to hell!!!

Don't worry... I prefer to extend the analogy and remember that sometimes, just very occasionally, I drive into a car park and there is a really good parking space which isn't taken. ;-)

lol cherry & also because they look(think) bigger than they realy are :--)

That would be white men only

....and when u bend them too far they break and shatter and u have little pieces all over your floor that cant be picked up by the vacuum cleaner.

me de virgin one :))))))))))

ARSE ..like they say in England!

gawd i hate that term. sorry, just how I feel about it.

George W Bush

Barrack Obama

Democrats. oh, sorry, that should be "asses" Funny, it's even their symbol!

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Hahahha ))))))

tush :)

How could I gorget "Tush", my bad.

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2 Bulldogs fighting in a potato sack

facemask,doughnut factory,tradesman's entry,poo pillows :--)

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Together ofc:P

Welcome back dude. Happy New Year. Banana is best, lots of Potassium

imo you're right banana wins,what other fruit do they offer you a split with! :--)

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monika,but don't strawberries & banana work well together only with cream? :--)

For me they always work together:) My 2 fav fruits:P

can't argue except that i'd add pineapple.i could live on those 3 fruits forever.so who's bringing the cream? :--)

Oh yes, im actually eating a pineapple now:))))))))

Isn't it rude to type with your mouth full?? :)

well you just typed it & didn't seem rude to me :--)

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I like strawberry it reminds me of a clit with blackheads : P

i have been to russia many times and i confirm that there r a lot of attractive girls but its not true that u cannot find ugly and fat girls there too, just still most r beautiful

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Thats not true. Comparing to americans-sure we are not fat. But if we take french girls as an example, we have extra weight. Russians are often curvy, not super fat, but we gain weight easity. Gotta take good care of what we eat and go to gym. There are exceptions ofc, who eat all they want and stay skinny.

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Ummmm.... 28/166/50? your measurements? of your figure? Your stomach is 3 times as big as your ass, and your breast is smallest of all? Maybe in your country they take figure measurements differently, but with a shape like that I'd sure be at the gym every day doing body sculpting. Please tell me that is a typo!

Maybe Age/Height/Weight would make more sense OMT?

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Should that not be cm? As in centimeters? :P

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Yes, well... that MacDonald's in Moscow? and wherever else? Just STAY AWAY! not our proudest American export, by any means.

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McDonalds new motto: "Making the Whole World Fat" ?

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mmmmm cabbage mcflurry and borscht smoothie:))

It's partly to do with some vegetables, which the majority of people in eastern europe and russia eat quite a bit of. Part of some of these vegetables that acts as an inhibitor to the body with fats from foods. Basically, eat the right vegetables and your body cannot physically absorb the fats from sugars into the blood.
Calories mean nothing for fat people, sugars and salts are the problem that cause their weight.

A common thing for russian and eastern european women all say they gain weight in western europe fast (12-16weeks) 6-8% body increases, even from eating their traditional foods. This is due to the Chemicals used in western foods during processing. and also "Low Calorie" products that actually contain crazy sugar levels (but noone see that ;))

It's funny when you see the new russian girls going onto their first diet! lol :D

Your metabolism slows as you age. I think mine came to a complete stop years ago.

LOL what you eat controls your metabolism. When you eat the basic food groups....fruits, veggies, protein and stay away from fast or ready made food and limit sugars in your diet it is amazing how quickly your metabolism changes even without exercise. Regardless of your age...so don't throw in the towel. :)

just sayin! :--)

So??

Women used to cheat if relationship is failed, but for some reasons she prefer to keep it. Men sometimes cheat even if everything is ok.

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Wow Peter.....that is one unique case. That might be a good reason that hosts might not want to get involved with a member.....to be a members fantasy. Each host is her own individual and how she reacts to all that is something that I couldn't even anticipate about myself let along how someone else would feel.
Sounds like she was used for your enjoyment and anything she did as far as being jealous or whatever .....I think she is entitled to including blocking you permanently. I know that if I was involved with a member on an intimate level......I would not want him going to other hosts. Also, if I am intimate with anyone in my personal life it certainly wouldn't be with someone who was married or playing :))

thanks "host" for the honest reply. I agree with you wholeheartedly. Then again we are human. Hosts and members alike are prone to these romance traps. I admit that I have fallen for many a host here and have become jealous whenever they are in they're 121 shows. But thats when my a**hole male instinct comes into play. So, start again with another host. Thanks again for the honesty.

Right now im having a crush on a member...And im so confused. He is crazy bout me too, and asks to meet him.

He is such a nice guy, and totally hot, a perfection in everything i would say...And he travells very often to my country for business, but the problem is i have a boyfriend. And i love him. And i would never cheat. And even if i just meet him for coffee-i consider it cheating. But this one is so tempting..Im lost and really dont know how to handle it:( Just waiting for this crush to go away. Such a nice feeling though..

TD,
You consider having coffee with a man cheating? And you are offering your services to anyone on this site? ;)
Anyway, I am in the same situation as your member. I am barely married anymore. I am crazy about this host and want to meet her. She seems to want to meet me too but so far nothing firm has been decided. I would say go for it. Life is way to short to let chances like this go by. Good luck.

Yes i consider it cheating because i am crazy about this guy. If it was just a friend or a random man it wouldnt be cheating, but to meet a guy i have feelings for..Not nice and not fair to my boyfriend. I will feel guilty. Besides, i know that if we meet, it may go way further than just a coffee, so i dont wanna tempt myself even more...

This is exactly why a bf or husband can be jealous when you work in a job like this. Yes you love him now, but you are inviting very intimate contact, even though there is no touching or anything in person.

Women can get emotionally attached to a guy who is nice and funny, and the fact that you don't meet in person can actually make the virtual relationship seem more perfect.

The bf is not getting jealous for "no reason". This is the reason. And this is when you love him very strongly. Imagine how you will feel when you go through a rough patch with him. Your online lover will seem like a viable alternative.

I know all this, this is why i said that im waiting for this crush to go away. I know it will:) Of course i will not leave my real man, who loves me and who i love for a virtual one. It will remain just a fantasy..

If she's feeling something strong for the other guy, perhaps its because the boyfriend isn't the right choice. Sorry, but there wouldn't even be an opening for the other man if the boyfriend was truly fulfilling all of her needs. So she SHOULD meet the other guy and see what sparks fly over lunch. Ever consider the possibility -- in the bigger picture of two people sharing a long and happy life together -- that the current boyfriend is the wrong man and the new guy is ACTUALLY who she was destined to be with?

U are so wrong. I love my bf, we are together for 3 years, and we have that deep feeling, trust, respect and love. On the other hand, this sparkle that we have with the member is just a crush, i dont know him well, and he doesnt know me well. We know each other for 1 month only. What are u talking about? Im very happy with my man, he treats me like a queen, and i have to leave him for the virtual fantasy? I dont think so. Men like him are rare.

I know that it will go soon, just as it have a couple of times before.

I agree with the other poster. You should take a chance and meet this other guy to see what happens and to see what you might feel once you meet him face to face. Why is the other poster so wrong? You're the one who wrote "Right now im having a crush and im so confused... i have a boyfriend and i love him and would never cheat, but this one is so tempting...Im lost and really dont know how to handle it :( " That sounds like you are confused about your feelings, which is all the more reason to take a possible once in a lifetime chance on meeting this other person who you also connected with. Screw is right. If you meet him, you might discover the other guy is your real match in life.

And how do you imagine her to take the chance? She is probably living with her bf. Even if she manages to quickly meet the other guy, it will be a quick meeting. And I wouldn't advise damping the bf before having learned the other guy in person well.
The romantic "click and sparkles" is one thing (which often lead to one-night stands) but a good relationship should be based on a good communication as well... (like somebody said before) and consideration, when your head is more or less clear and not filled with the guilt and fear because of the bf.
If she were single I would also say- why not- take the chance!

Well said, im happy that someone at least thinks the way i do abt those crushes online. I started to think the world is going crazy..

And i dont live with my boyfriend, i can meet the guy easily, its just ill never forgive myself if i do, the guilt wont let me sleep at night, my boyfriend is a great guy and he doesnt deserve this. To risk my stable and good relationships for a sparkle that might be just an illusion? I dont think so..

Going by your logic she'd be frozen in place forever. You're saying she shouldn't meet the new guy because of her bf, but then saying she should accept any lingering doubts she has about her bf for no other reason than she's already with him. That's just silly. Obviously the cleanest way to start a relationship is when both parties are single and there are no outstanding entanglements. But in modern dating most people switch to a new lover while seeing someone else. Someone breaking up with an existing BF or GF because they simply met someone new who caught their eye or stole their heart happens every second of the day. Its a reality of modern dating. If she was married to her BF, then I could see the argument of her not meeting the new guy, to honor her marriage vows. But if she's single and not even engaged, then I don't see any problem with her meeting the other guy for something as innocent as lunch, as the others have said to simply see if their personal chemistry is strong enough to pursue matters further.

Well since she doesn't live with him together- it is easier to meet the other guy. All depends on personal moral standing.
When I wrote that I got a picture in my head: she meets the new guy, the bf finds out and since they share the flat, not only the feelings are hurt, but there are also a lot of material complications. Because the you ned to have a flat, internet connection and good nerves for this job:)
And what if she met the new guy and he were the type of guy who doesn't mind her working here? Then she is in the same situation.
I like romantic stuff too but you also have to think practically;)

Would you all make the same advices, if it is your own girlfriend who has someone else in her mind?

Turn b/f into a cuck ,have him film you banging the new dude and have him clean up the mess. Problem solved. No need to thank me, I enjoy helping out where I can.

Typical guys.....good women stay true in their heart and mind when they find the 'good guy" :)

That's not the question at hand and no one is saying the BF isn't nice. But if a woman has two men in her life and both are equally nice and appealing and have a romantic interest in her, she isn't making a proper choice unless she gives both of them a fair and equal chance. I agree with the others. For all this talk about the morality of what she should do, she isn't married and she doesn't have to sleep with the member. But she should meet him to see what possible chemistry they might have. She could be passing up the better man out of blind loyalty to her current BF and making a bigger mistake in the long run.

Sounds like bullcrap to me Peter.

To each his/her own "oh no." I'm not asking you to believe it. Just asking how hosts deal with it.

Erm...I crushes for every guy in my room....really! Adore all them. :)

pillows of pleasure

Like that, and they are

Rita and Lashonda

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Rofl, love that!

glad u like that moni. btw, how r rita and lashonda doing? :))

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lunch!

hornet bites (if they're small)

boobies

never heard them called that before......:P I'm sorry! couldnt resist.

i like to call them hot dog buns, especially when i place my......well.....u know......in between them.....and since my....um....u know what.....can be called a weiner........well, nevermind. i'm sure u get what im talking about.

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Well, assuming the breasts are attached to a certain host here that I love, I like to call them "mine" and "mine"! LOL

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my fave name for tits is b1 + b2

Tities

Cows have tits and tities for more than 2 :) not women

"Wishful thinking" and "Forbidden Fruit"

Good old fashioned TITS.

fun bags,floaties,life supports,pick-a-boob,tsubs,headlights,black eyes,saddle bags,all day suckers,.... :--)

eat something and drink something (anything ) see if that helps u

right, maybe more threadmill, or meeting friends get drunken and bumb sex :)

first you need to understand the source of your headache? Sinus related, Neck out of alignment? stress? Eyesight need correcting? Are you having a migraine headache, or a normal headache? Do you have cluster headaches (very very painful, and doctor's care is required). The solution to your headache can be as simple as taking a couple of aspirin, or needing something more intentional like chiropractic adjustments to some radical treatment by a physician. Good luck. I suffer from headaches all the time because of my neck.

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thanks hon, okay I'll just imagine it. thanks.

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I usually dont have this problem, cuz i make it very clear from the beginning that im not looking for anything serious on here, and that i dont meet. But it does happen sometimes, when a regular, knowing this, cant help but falling in love (i dont believe that one can fall in love here, but whatever u call this feeling). I had this several times, but what can i do? I tell him that it wont gonna work, and i prefer him to stop seeing me, cuz i dont like feeling guilty, knowing that im the reason why this guy is hurting. Usually they stop, but there is one guy who keeps comming, he knows that i cant give him what he wants, but i still feel erm..very bad about it.

But Monika, you told ME that you love me and would always be mine! I'm so sad now! Oh woe is me!

LOL (just yanking your chain. oops, you don't have a chain. just pulling your leg LOL)

MARRY ME, Monika!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

<< but there is one guy who keeps coming, he knows that i cant give him what he wants, but i still feel erm...very bad about it>>

I would imagine this is a different problem for hosts, but it fits with the discussion. What should a host do about a guest who has a crush but refuses to accept reality? Guests become regulars by finding a host they are attracted to and feel comfortable with. Making a guest feel desired and wanted is a host's #1 job to successfully create a fantasy. Problems begin when a guest forgets this is a pay site and he starts to believe his time with a host is no longer based on money, but on friendship. Psychologically speaking, that is the critical tipping point because that is when he no longer views himself as a guest. Instead, he sees himself as a welcomed part of her real life. As a result, he starts to believe everything the host says and believes that all of the flirty fantasy talk is meant for real.

MonikaBabe has the correct approach. It would be far healthier if more hosts would remind their guests that they are only here to work and put on a show. Guests who talk of feelings should be reminded this is a pay site. From time to time, all guests -- even regulars -- should be reminded not to take a host's fantasy words as a sign of real interest.

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I haven't heard your phrase and if you consider yourself a prostitute ....good for you but it sure as hell doesn't apply to this host....another phrase.....if you can't say something nice.....don't!! ;)

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Actually, the original host used the word appropriately. One definition of prostitution is to sell sex (which, arguably, many hosts do, even if they try to convince themselves that this isn't a sex site), but a second definition of prostitution is simply to "offer talent or work for unworthy purposes."

Good luck with your English too. :)

You are getting into a semantic morass. Prostitution was used figuratively for effect in your second example. But real actual l prostitution is as the host described -- the selling of physical sex (not virtual) for money, through a person to person bodily encounter..

Well I just don't see it prostituting if one sings for money, dances for money, teases for money......selling sex for money would be the most common use of the word and by the use of the word it is common to assume that is the meaning. However you would choose the word is your choice but don't call hosts here prostitutes unless you want to hear back from them!!
Get a life :)

Guess that makes you an ignorant "John" then paying for sex and getting nothing more than a hard on...lmao.

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Since you never exposed yourself to me in paid videochat, you are definitely not a prostitute.

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Reading your original post RB, I didn't think you were talking about yourself or the girls here anyway. You quoted the saying about prostitutes, but weren't you just making an analogy? I thought you were saying something like "what is good for the goose is good for the gander". You would not literally be talking about a goose, and you were not literally talking about prostitutes. It's just a saying, meaning don't get too close to someone who is only here for the money.

hmmm It's a hard question. Hard to remember about all such guys because I tell myself to not to take them serious now and forget quickly...hard to analyse such online relationships. Because I not always know myself whether I like the guy but try to get myself down on earth, or whether he likes me and tries to conquer me. Because it is not always clearly said between the host and the viewer...well like in reality as well. With some people you just click and your life changes but you don't know why. And you not always know what is real and what is fantasy...

I had one guy some years ago with whom we seemed to be at least infatuated. We were for sex videos on CC and chatted much outside "for free" as well. I considered him a kind of a supportive friend and virtual lover. It seemed to me to be a healthy combination. Although my English was not perfect.
When I met him first I was single but in the course of time I learned a guy who became my bf later. But it all was not decided yet. So back to the 1 guy- I once happened to look into his eyes on webcam closely and it was like an electric shock. I don't know what he felt but if I remember it right, he told me later he would never visit me again because he started to develop an addiction and I was a chathost and he was married and I have to forget about him. I agreed with his choice but for my taste he told it pretty hard and rude, I believe I was slightely pissed off.
Then he wrote me an email a couple of years later asking for my MSN again to talk a bit, because he felt we had clicked and he needed me for virtual sex as well. I responded that he could chat with me at a high price in my room. I didn't want any emotional chats with him. And all ended with an argument that I am only after his money blabla and my blocking him. And I believe he still was in my chat some time later...because when you have chathost experience you start recognizing members looking at the style of their chat and their intelectual level and... he told me about some of his liked that the other guy from several years ago had as well and which were very unusual. It was a pleasant chat and he seemed to know my likes as well and understand me well... For me it was obvious it was that guy from before but I didn't tell him about that, because, I had all the commitments... and that guy only gave me some hints about him.
That was my strangest "crush experience" with an open end. I don't know what to think of it. My common sense tells me not to start a relationship with a married guy anyway.

And I also had a guy who obviously had a crush, visited me often, called me his wife, wanted to marry me, even when I asked him to stop, begged me to meet him, called me etc. I told him honestly about my situation-bf, no wish to meet him because I didn't like him that much. But he didn't believe me and told me we could overcome all...creepy and scary:).Later he managed to stop chatting..maybe because of the credit crunch.

I believe I always told men I had a bf (when I decided him to become my bf) when such a crush was in view. And later told people right away that I am not for meeting. Ok, it's always a big mess when a crush happens. And then I have to remind myself of my real life commitments and I still have wishes besides finding love...so I try to concentrate on those goals for a kind of "reality check".

Thank you, that was an honest and thoughtful post...

For once a long post that was worth the time reading.

Yes it happens frequently and it is very hard because inside I know that he has his fantasy met when he sees me of course looking at my best but in reality he doesn't even know me. I see the complications with a distance romance and my life goals and usually just try to share that reality with him. I think it is easy for a guy to dream about a host because you see her in real time video, chat and laugh with her. She is there (with pics and recorded video at least) when you want to see her and she is always at her best and sexy. Where in reality she might be your neighbor and you would not notice her because you don't see her the same way...and when you do see her (host) there is usually a lot of testosterone present.
On the other hand I recently met someone where there were immediate sparks and when I listened to him...I could see that he had the elements in a man that I was holding out for in my personal dreams. There was electricity every time he came into my video as I would see and listen to him (we just chatted) and he felt it too. It continued and I quite honestly told him that I am not ready in my life for this and he instead worked through all my concerns with me showing me how minor they were in the scope of things. He came to visit and we had a wonderful time together....again something that would be in alignment with my dream man. We excite each other, think about life very similar and are on the same emotional level about each other. It just continues to grow (with no rush) and it is awesome! I am realistic in the way that it may never go anywhere and we could just be creating memories but it is well worth the ride because he is the closest thing to Mr. Right that I have ever met. We both feel fortunate and we know that we never would have met had it not been for meeting here.
So it can be an opportunity of meeting the ideal person but only if you are both feeling it. I think the host will have the biggest hesitation because many men have crushes on girls here and the host becomes numb to it. If you feel strongly about a host, remember that you are seeing a very small portion of who she is in reality. If she doesn't let you into her personal life then consider it just business and enjoy her when you can here but don't let yourself get too attached until it moves to a personal level and if it does you won't have to wait months or years for it to happen if she truly is attracted to you. There are many hosts here that will use it for their financial advantage so be cautious and protect your heart because those hosts won't. Good Luck and Wishes!

A good articulate answer )

crushes by members equals perfect client to many hosts they create false love/crushes called roleplaying host play game with goal of getting every last cent from member after his account is flat host calls member stalker some host have many guys she roleplaying at same but members not know its a game until its too late

That is a good point and it does happen often. That is how guys end up with broken hearts on sites such as this. A guest will fall for a host and she will play him until his wallet is dry. But that goes back to what "Sorting things out" is asking which is a good question. Who is to blame? The host who feels she is doing her job by providing a fantasy? Or the guest who starts to believe that everything she says is true? And even if it means losing a customer, when should a host drop the fantasy and remind a guest that this is only a fantasy and her online life and real life are two different things? I like the answers the hosts are giving so far. They've been very interesting to read.

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Your point is well made! Thanks :))

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I think that it is interesting your choice of words.....promniscuity would refer to several sexual partners which in reality who is having sex together here? In fact I am not having sex with any members here...lol. In fact I am not having sex at all with another person...hehe. Enjoy your words and be careful how you use them in real life....I think if you are referring to girls that are attractive to guys as prostituting themselves....;) I am ready to not take your choice of words serious at all.

I'd be glad to help you be more promiscuous. :)

LOL!!! A true man.

Cam girls are on line adult entertainers, except for the ones in Non Adult and certain ones in Glamour and Little Shy. But anything is possible. Its all about attitude.

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Well, lets face it, this isn't gonna help you exactly....but;

Your English was perfect in your very first post.
Your English English! like from England.

If you said those words in that context as you did and how you used them in your first post, then in England as a country and in it's society, you would have no problem at all. If you said that in the street, everyone understands, everyone smile and laugh, it's perfectly correct.
Also... quite accurate too ;) (in what you said)

However, in American English... maybe different.
In all other English perhaps not, as you have seen. Why's that, because believe me.. It doesn't matter if you're from Russia/Romania or Brazil/Bangladesh where ever your geography takes you... YOU DON'T SPEAK ENGLISH!

You can't, even after 25 years of non stop schooling, vocal trainers, etc.. you will never truly get it and never truly speak it. Partly this is due to 311 million incompetent Americans who trash the language, and also what we call "Text speak" in a global sense.

Anyone can speak some words, and some very well, but here in your first post (maybe by accident) you actually got it perfect.

As for all responses thereafter, they're nonsense because the host lacked an ability to understand the correct use of the words.

In the English language, what words you choose aren't as important as the context, grammar and meaning. You can swear /use vulgar words to an employer and nothing can happen badly from that, you can use profanities in a court of law, to police, if used correctly then it is harmless (even the worst words) but used incorrectly and even the mildest words can land you in hot water.
That is exactly how difficult it is to use the language, a slight minor and insignificant piece of punctuation means the difference between fine and OK and All hell breaks loose!

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hi there, i'm also known as your other half, women and hosts click with me and find me funny, interesting and sexy. we spend alot of time chatting and of course the women want me to travel and meet them and i'd also like to meet them. My problem is that in the past i have met miss wrong, miss i'm not as i appear on site, miss i want you to do whatever i say and miss i can't make decisions. It is hard being so perfect and having so many women that think they want to marry me, some days i wish i was imnotshy.

Lauging soooo hard! lol :D

That was very humorous!

I have same problems but women love my HUGE cock ! What should I do seems they don't respect my mind ..instead all women want sit in YM and.... say " make it hard again please "

Yes there are some that have crushes fast after just seeing me online for a short period and they want a relationship. I try to make them see reality and then avoid them if they don't see it.
It also works in reverse, I have seen recently. A member met a host and after meeting her realized she was totally different than she appeared. He started ignoring her so that she would figure out his lack of interest and she still continues to pursue him very strong. I have met him recently and we do click very well in person and have a very intense (all good) and she will not give up even after he has explained to her that he has no interest. He did some really wonderful things for her before they met and instead of appreciating that and moving on she is like gum on the bottom of your shoe and can't get it off. I would warn anyone that met that host....close to fatal attraction.
Thankfully I haven't met any men like that.

well and what is the name of the host then that u want to warn us about? There is alot of hosts here u know...

My new rule will help perk up Community Chat: Everyone in Comm Chat Must Be Naked to Chat There!

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name them? the fun ones i mean

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comm chat slow death started in the day when glamour category was born... who know's why

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You hit that right on the head.....Glamor is the doom and gloom for all guys that do not understand it.....but the gentlemen that like to get to know a Lady do :))

LOL actually she hit only on her own toes... i dont have problems with Glamour girls, i just simply dont visit them because there is nothing i search from here, only glamour hosts i ever visited have been ones i knew from other place, so i knew what i will get when visit them... but if u been here long enough, and think a little, u might notice that Glamour category has some negative effect to spirit in comm chat )))

"i dont have problems with Glamour girls, i just simply dont visit them because there is nothing i search from here"

Amen brother

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most of the men left from there becouse some of the hosts starting to beg for video after guy come in room eww.

others left there because of the constant fighting there . it is more peacefull when a certain member is not ranting and chanting ;).
the hosts must play a part in making the room interesting also .
why do they not get disconected for not chatting ?

Community Chat has been ok on the few occasions i have tried it, which is achieved by clicking 'ignore' on all members in the room, ditto most of the hosts that are writing in public, and then holding private conversations with just 1 or 2 hosts, and clicking 'ignore' on anybody else who seeks to interrupt. Which I acknowledge all goes counter to the spirit of "community"!

I agree it would get lot better if more host would get involved in chat, instead of members talking with each other--they can do that on ym with each other.

I think if we start all over, everybody (host and members) get a new screen name things would get better, to much of the same things are being said and repeated a lot from old members and host, we have got use to this stuff

Everytime I have had a new screenname, it starts a whole new wave of "Come see me in video" when I go to community chat. At least with the same old name, they know I don't what that crap.

The only good thing about Community Chat is you Boomer

Why?

Why not?

Because.

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i agree. although i admit i sometimes try to cop in on a show where a guy did all the preliminary buttering up, if i had spent quality time working up a good relationship with a host, I certainly don't want anybody else interrupting what is meant for me.

ahh, the old two-faced approach... okay to butt in on someone else but don't want to have someone butt in on you. But I certainly understand. I feel the same way. Kind of like outlawing cellphone use while driving is okay for everybody else, but not for me.

I for one have no interest in open video. I go directly to 121 except the very first time just to make sure the pictures match the host in video.

Back in the less regulated "Wild West" and for me more fun days of CC, before 121, hosts cold have several rooms open at once in the same or different categories.A host might have 2 or even three rooms open in Littleshy with three different prices and maybe a couple in Notshy higher prices. Hosts were not required to close any room down when someone entered video but were supposed to ensure they gave proper attention to all members. Of course there were sometimes problems when hosts had more members in video than they could handle but for me this was compensated for by the laughs it could produce. Also prices were much much lower because having more rooms and several members at a time meant hosts were busier. Many hosts had a session at 0.70 or less even if they also had ones at 1.00, 1.25 and 1.50. I was regulaly in video with many different hosts and things seldom reached the point where I was not happy with the attention/show i was getting. And when they did I simply said thanx and goodbye and left the room. When i had only been paying 0.50 or 0.60 a minute the loss was small. However many members were unhappy that they were not the sole focus of the hosts attention (sound familar? Lol) and complained to CC that "SOMETHING SHOULD BE DONE". So CC introduced new rules:
A host could have a maximum of two sessions open at the same time
These sessions must be in different categories
When a member enters one session the host must immediately close the other
They also introduced 121 so that those members who wanted exclusivity could get it. To compensate the hosts for the loss of income the rate for 121 was set higher than the open rate.
The result of this was that average prices increased and the number of rooms at less than $1.00 dropped dramatically. And the complaints about not having hosts full attention have not decreased.
In my opinion 121 and the other rules are a classic demonstration that you should be careful what you wish for cos you might get it.

Great recap, though I'd expand on one thing. You said "And the complaints about not having a host's full attention have not decreased." Let's be honest here -- that's simply because most hosts work multiple sites at the same time, hoping to get a paying customer anywhere they can. So even when they do start a private one-to-one show here, hosts often list themselves as STILL being free and available at the other sites.

The end result -- a guest who THINKS he's getting a one-to-one show...and who naturally assumes (for the money he's paying) that he has the host's full attention...is actually competing for her attention, since she's ALSO trying to please a different customer, who is watching via another site.

Yes i understand that. I think that the restrictions on CC sessions made more hosts start to work on multiple sites. The main point is that, although CC has done jsut about everything it can it did not stop the complaints.

agree

The answer to that is ......not all hosts are so greedy as to do that and so find a host that isn't. The ones that break the rules are being dishonest so turn them in and find a different host. At least when you turn them in it makes them very aware of what they are doing wrong. Write in their personal forum anonymously if you choose but silence doesn't fix the problem ever. I don't see that as vindictive in anyway and there are hosts that can justify anything here until it is remarked to her. 121 seems very important to many members that want exclusive attention and that is what was intended by the creation of it. There will always be loopholes that CC can not anticipate so help stop the ones that abuse it. There are plenty of choices on this site so I don't see any reason for any complaints here.....just handle the problem with an individual host or forget about it.
Many members that complain here....just like to complain and they only see their perspective and not the big picture....

Thank you for your great post too

Thank you for that excellent post

The original idea was Adam's and Eve's. Of course, they had no choice.

Thank you, my feet r still dry.. :)

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what if i dont know any other elena that can make it? i wish i could have the opportunity to try your sarmale, but i realize that the distance can make it go bad. even if it were kept preserved, i'm sure it wouldnt be the same as if it were made right then and there. do we have any other options?

try the romanian girls

got any in mind to help narrow the search? preferably one who can hold a decent conversation. of course i can look at the profile, but its kinda hard when the profiles say "ask me." then, when you ask them the only response you get is "hey bb, come to pvt!"

u could try a romanian cook book. no biggie to make them;)

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Great! I might have to take you up on that offer.

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1. b
2. a
3. c
4. a and b
5. b
6. b $2.80
7. a
8. c

wow nice test:P want to hear all the answers:P

1) b
2) a
3) a/b
4) a/b/c
5) b
6) $2.00
7) a
8) a

1) When u enter in video u want to see:

a) close up on face
b) to see all of her

B, all of her, and when stripping or playing, I want to see all too. I hate when hosts zoom when I don't ask (unless showing herself with cum running out of her) or when they lay in a way that I cannot see their face.

2)u would like to find her:

a) dressed in a nice t-shirt and panties,natural look
b)sexy,glamour
c)naked

A. T-shirt and panties, but made up too with some nice earrrings. (NO necklace.. it covers breasts, lol, and crucifixes make me feel I am doing something wrong, hehe,)

3)video should start:

a)wt a nice conversation
b)tease and strip
c)her telling u she is horny and wants to play

The show should start when I want it to, which will depend on my mood. Sometimes I want to talk a little, but others I want to get right to the action. Usually, the conversation let's the host know. If I say something like "Mmm. I want u.", it is pretty obvious what I want, lol. But once the show starts, I like a sexy tease and strip first. Unless I have seen a host before and already know what I want, I never like seeing her strip in 2 seconds and play. The sensual strip and tease, especially with oil or lotion, is a big turn on for me. Just don't stall.

The key is to follow the member's lead. He will give you clues what he wants. Maybe he is too shy to say "get naked", but if he is talking about something involving sex, he probably wants you naked sooner or later and you probably won't have too many guys get upset if you start to strip.

4)the girl should be:
a)smart and sexy
b)nice and funny
c)beautiful and outgoing
d)sex bomb

All of the above.

5)how important is the room aspect?

a)very,the room should be nice
b)not important

B. but I prefer a room that is nice. I never have not visited a host because of her room, but I like a nice room. And studio hosts... stop talking to the girl next to you when in video!!!

6) how important is price/quality?

a)not important if the girl is what im looking for
b)even if the girl is perfect i would not pay more than ...$/minute

I don't like my choices here. The more I like the host, the more I am willing to pay. Price just affect how often I will visit her and how long I will stay in video. I've paid $5/min before, but I usually won't stay long.

7) if u looking for hardcore action and u see a gorgeous girl in softcore section would u go in video?

a)I would only if she agree in text chat to strip/play
b)i would not go in video with her
c)if i like her enough only looking at her will make my day
d)i will go straight in video asking her to show me her goods

Grrrr. It all depends. When evaluating a soft core host, I try to figure out how likely she is 1) to strip and 2) to say "only 121". I look at her profile, her forum, her pics to see how much of her body she shows, and her price, especially her open price versus her 121 price, and whether she has a profile in a hardcore category as well.

I use my long time experience here to then decide if I feel like taking the time to ask her in text chat about whether she will strip and if it will be "only 121". Sometimes I will just move on to the next host without even asking since I am either sure she won't strip or she will say only 121 and her price there is too high. It is all about my mood and what my instincts tell me. For example, if I think she will strip but is an "only 121" type, I check the price and decide if it is worth seeing her. If I think she will strip in open too, then again, I look at the price and decide if it is worth it and also consider if i still will want to stay if she says she strips but I am wrong and it will only be in 121.

Again, what I do is use my experience to judge what will probably happen. I don't like taking the time to go into text and ask what she will do, and I don't like going into video unless I have a high degree of confidence she will give me a show. I rather not get into debates with hosts about stripping, 121, passwords, prices, et cetera. I am here to have fun, not to enter a business negotiation so I just accept her prices and try to use my best judgment and visit hosts that I think will give me what I want at the price I want.

The only time I will just jump into video even if I think a host won't strip is if I know her and just want to talk or if she is very beautiful and I just want to see what she looks like on cam. I may ask for a show once I am there. But most of the time, if I want a strip, however, once again, I do a whole mental analysis based on my long time of being a member here. And by the way, if the price isn't too high, I sometimes just jump into video and hope for the best. Again, it really depends on my mood.

8)u would accept lies?

a) no, i wanna hear only the truth
b)just a lil lie to make feel great wont harm anyone
c) lies are good as long as i feel like in heaven

A. I hate lies. I will visit you even if you are happily married with 5 kids as long as I have fun visiting you, be it chatting or playing. It is a little weird playing with someone I know is married, but I've done it. I rather know the truth, and that includes giving your honest opinion about me too.

1) When u enter in video u want to see:
b) to see all of her

2)u would like to find her:
a)dressed in a nice t-shirt/jumper and jeans/home clothes, natural look

3)video should start:
a)wt a nice conversation (or just 'A' conversation)

4)the girl should be:
c)beautiful and outgoing

5)how important is the room aspect?
a)very,the room should be nice

6) how important is price/quality?
b)even if the girl is perfect i would not pay more than $2 minute

7) if u looking for hardcore action and u see a gorgeous girl in softcore section would u go in video?
c)if i like her enough only looking at her will make my day

8)u would accept lies?
a) no, i wanna hear only the truth

Not telling

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It`s a quiz.....when u see a quiz in a magazine u take it or not! same here! And it is not for a specific category. For glamhost: what woman does not like to be adored? I do! If u don`t its ur problem....i am young,beautiful and i am smart...ofc i desirve the best of all ...and i am modest :D

69 question quiz coming soon

I don't recall saying anything about "being adored" but if you are referring to Dom behavior then maybe we see things differently, agreed. I don't need to demean a member to feel appreciated for my attractiveness and elegant manner. I honestly don't see how Glam and Dom fit in the same sentence let alone the same category. Sounds like you are very full of yourself and maybe having slaves makes you feel "adored" but then the Dom category would suit you just fine and would attract your slaves. Glamor generally attracts gentlemen but gentlemen 99% of the time would not be slaves or sissyboys. I think you are very confused.

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to glam host plese give us sissy boys a break just because we like instant action--it's lot hotter then just looking at someone who thinks theor pretty

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Well I don't see why you have you have your panties in such a knott....lol. The comments were certainly directed at the original poster and if you are a Dom in Glam then it would include you too.... and to you my response is maybe you can Dom guys that want to be slaves but you surely will not intimidate me into not expressing my position having to tolerate your activities in the wrong category :) Don't Dom's belong in the Dom category? Or does that make too much sense?

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I think you are taking it way too seriously. But in any case the points you raised are irrelevant. The quiz is to find out what the member expects. It is up to the member to choose the category most appropriate to meet these expectations.

The entire point is that it is simply a way to self promote because the results certainly aren't anything that could be relevant. Funny how you didn't even bother to take her quiz...lol.

1-b
2-a or b
3-a
4-a+b
5-a
6-a
7-c
8-a